AI companion
AI Support for Narcissistic Abuse and Toxic Relationships
The short answer
Yes, there is an AI you can talk to about a narcissist or a toxic relationship: Sophia, the companion built on the EMOSOPHIE® by Marion Kohn. She listens, helps you sort out what just happened, and names the patterns behind it, such as blame-shifting, gaslighting or the silent treatment. Around the clock, no waiting, in the app and in the browser. The first seven days are free.
Who is Sophia for?
Sophia is for people living with a narcissistic partner, a narcissistic mother or father, people in the middle of a separation, and people who left long ago and still cannot let go. For everyone who feels drained after every conversation with one particular person, keeps justifying themselves, and eventually starts doubting their own perception.
Sophia is not there to judge the other person. She is there for you: for the moment at three in the morning when you need to sort out what happened and do not want to call anyone. For the question whether that was manipulation or whether you are overreacting. And for the time afterwards, when your head clears and old patterns become visible.
What can Sophia actually do in a conversation?
Sophia listens without judging and keeps asking until it becomes clear what this is really about. That sounds like little, and in everyday life with a narcissistic person it is the rarest thing.
She names patterns. When you describe a situation, Sophia puts it in context: idealisation and devaluation in turns, blame-shifting, gaslighting, the silent treatment as punishment, hoovering after a breakup. Naming things pulls you out of the fog, because what happened gets a name you did not invent yourself.
She helps you separate your perception from the guilt that was pushed onto you. Many people arrive with the question whether they are oversensitive. In the conversation it becomes possible to tell apart what you actually felt and what you were talked into.
She prepares a conversation with you. If you want to set a boundary, you can phrase the sentence beforehand and rehearse it until it sounds like you, not like an attack.
She keeps the thread. Your conversation history stays with you, so over the weeks you can see which situations repeat and what is changing in you.
How is Sophia different from ChatGPT and other chatbots?
A general chatbot answers from the average of the internet. Sophia answers from a fixed foundation: the EMOSOPHIE® by Marion Kohn, who has worked on the root cause of narcissistic patterns for more than 25 years and wrote the book "KEINE LIEBE" about it. Sophia has a fixed mandate, clear rules on safety, honesty and privacy, and does not change the subject when it gets uncomfortable.
From the analysis apps that evaluate a single message or a screenshot, Sophia differs in direction: she does not work on the other person’s message, she works with you. Both have their place. If you want to decode a message, a decoder app serves you well. If you want to understand why you keep ending up with the same kind of people, you need a conversation.
What is Sophia not?
Sophia is not therapy, does not make diagnoses, and is not a crisis service. She will not tell you whether your partner has a narcissistic personality disorder; only a psychiatrist or psychotherapist can do that. She also does not replace a counselling service when violence is involved.
In an acute crisis, please contact your local emergency number or a crisis helpline right away. In Germany that is 112 and the Telefonseelsorge at 0800 111 0 111, free and around the clock. Sophia points this out herself during the conversation when she recognises such a situation.
How do I start?
You can begin with one of the free tests if you first want to put into context what is becoming visible in your relationship. Or you talk to Sophia directly: in the app for iPhone and Android, or in the browser.
The first seven days are free, after that you need a subscription. You sign up with an email address; Sophia does not need your real name. Your conversations are never sold and never used for advertising.
What is the foundation behind Sophia?
The foundation is the EMOSOPHIE® by Marion Kohn. She has worked for more than 25 years on the question where narcissistic patterns come from and published her findings in the book "KEINE LIEBE". At the centre is a conflict she calls the Out-of-the-Centre Conflict. What it means for your situation is something Sophia works out with you in conversation, not this page.
Frequently Asked Questions
You need an account with an email address, but no real name and no details about the person involved. Your conversations are encrypted in transit and at rest, never sold and never used for advertising. To generate replies, your messages are processed by contractually bound AI providers; the details are in the privacy policy.
No. Sophia is an emotional companion, not a therapist, and makes no diagnoses. She can accompany you between appointments, help you sort your thoughts, and encourage you to seek professional help when you need it.
The first seven days are free; after that you need a monthly or annual subscription. Current prices are on the pricing page, and both plans can be cancelled at any time.
The app is available in German and English. In the conversation itself, Sophia answers in the language you write in.
No, only a psychiatrist or psychotherapist can make a diagnosis. Sophia helps you recognise the patterns you are experiencing, and the free tests put into context what is becoming visible in this relationship. That is different from a verdict on a person, and it is usually enough to know what to do next.
Sophia is not a crisis service. If you are in danger or do not know how to go on, contact your local emergency number or a crisis helpline. In Germany: 112, or the Telefonseelsorge at 0800 111 0 111, free and around the clock.